Rewrite the Rules

Trust-Falling Back Into Ourselves

First, a note: I don’t want to dwell on the past or cast blame. (I’ve done that plenty and it’s not helpful.) I share this only to mark how far I’ve come—and for that, I’m grateful.

We aren’t broken because of how we learned to survive. We were sensitive, strong, and resourceful. When our caretakers were distracted or absent (something we can relate to now), we became expert readers of their moods, trying to earn love by anticipating needs. It was an impossible game, but as children we played it because belonging mattered more than authenticity.

In adapting, we lost touch with who we were. Those patterns followed us into adulthood, where we keep trying to prove our worth through caretaking and performance. But now, we get to rewrite the rules! We are supported to release that construct and return to our true roadmap—the one etched in love, connection, and choice.

Love is our guiding force. For years, we poured it outward; now, we direct it inward. We’re leaving the highway of misalignment to take the back roads—where joy lives in detours, not destinations.

The relationships that meet us in vibrancy and health appear when we align with ourselves first. That means recognizing we are love, and living from that soft, unresisting place. Resistance can dress itself up as logic, duty, or fear. But our compass is the unmistakable feeling of a whole-body yes.

Life is a buffet: we choose what resonates, and let the rest go on someone else’s plate. Our work isn’t to point fingers at the injustices we’ve suffered; it’s to surrender the illusion that safety lives in old patterns. It’s trust-falling back into ourselves—and realizing we were the net all along.

Watch this Reflections of Life for another take on this theme.